Sharing Happiness

"Wisdom in a small sentence, which can give you an instant lift or positivity is a daily quote".



With digital media we see so many quotes around us each day.

Some quotes motivate us, inspire us and are also a great way in helping us become a more positive and uplifting person.

As Louise Hay says " Affirmations are like seeds planted in soil. Poor soil, poor growth. Rich soil, abundant growth. The more you choose to think thoughts that make you feel good, the quicker the affirmations work.

Today I am sharing with you some of my favourite quotes which I have collected over a time. These quotes can help you improve your mood, have a different outlook towards life and remind you of the true essence of happiness.

*Read them
*Choose your favourite one
*Copy them/ Write them
*Share with family and friends
*Plan the Action steps that you can take from that wisdom
*Say them each day
*Memorise them if you can
*Use them to uplift you any time during the day
*See your day becoming better

1. “Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions” — H.H. the Dalai Lama

2. “When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.” — Dr.Wayne Dyer

3. “It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” — Dale Carnegie

4. I act as if I already have what I want -  it's an excellent way to attract happiness in my life - Louise Hay

5. “Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier. Be the living expression of God's kindness: kindness in your face, kindness in your eyes, kindness in your smile.”
― Mother Teresa

6. “To get up each morning with the resolve to be happy . . . is to set our own conditions to the events of each day. To do this is to condition circumstances instead of being conditioned by them.” — Ralph Waldo Emerson

7. "There is no path to happiness. Happiness is the path." - Buddha

8. "To change our lives, at some point we have to decide that, rather than suffer anymore, we are going to live in happiness. And one way we can do that is to make the decision to look for things to appreciate, no matter what."  - The Secret

9. "Loving myself and thinking joyful, happy thoughts is the quickest way to create a wonderful life." - Louise Hay

10. "Whenever you are happy, the real source of happiness is within you. It is just that you are looking for an external stimulus to make you happy." - Sadhguru

Change begins with me

It was a Friday morning, I woke up a bit later than usual, a few friends had come over for dinner the previous evening. I was tempted to call the Teachers and excuse myself from the field trip. But luckily the better part of me took over and encouraged me to be in the moment.

So there I was with a few teachers and a bunch of cute kids for a trip to the Police Commissioners Office. The kids were between 8 to 9 years old, excited & enthusiastic, asking questions and having loads of fun.

We reached the Deputy Commissioners' Office where we were all made comfortable and was personally addressed by DCP Mr. Satyanarayana. The staff was equally excited to receive the kids and had prepared the kids on what's in store for them. Three buses full of boisterous kids were escorted by the Police to the Charminar, a beautiful heritage site and the icon of Hyderabad. It's located in the heart of the old city surrounded by shops and vendors. Mr Satyanarayana along with his staff made sure that the kids get an excellent view of this beautiful and historical monument.

Soon after we headed to the Dabeerpura Police Station where we were warmly greeted by the Inspector Ms. Lakshmi Mathuri.

Till that day, the image I held of the police stations came from run-of-the-mill masala movies made by Bollywood. The image was of a dimly lit unkempt with ill-mannered Police Officers. That perception changed completely when I, along with those impressionable kids, learned that Police officers are not only trained physically and mentally but also in soft skills. Every person who walks in to a police station is not a criminal, so they have a reception and each one is made comfortable by offering Tea/Coffee.

 

She Police, Hawk Eye, Cyber Crime  and Detective Services are just some of the various progressive and forward thinking steps that our cops are taking. The Police is not to scare and intimidate the common man but they work hard day and night for the safety and security of the society.

I am sure such steps are being taken at other places but I was really touched by the way Inspector Lakshmi Mathuri explained kids to trust the police and sleep peacefully as they will not let anything untoward happen in our lovely city. The warmth and friendly smiles which we received from the staff made me realize that its time for me to drop my old thinking.

My respect for the service the Police provides increased immensely. The words of Mahatma Gandhi - Be the change you wish to see in the world engulfed me and made me recognize and change my limiting beliefs that no longer serve me well.

I was fortunate to have this opportunity, but we all need to introspect about these services. Do we take them for granted or Are we grateful for them? Do we appreciate the fact that the society is safer due to the friendly neighbourhood cops  or we feel its our birth right ? Do we acknowledge the Traffic Police standing in the harsh Sun and pollution or we think they are not good at managing?

Change begins with me, I do understand this now and when I wake up I say a silent prayer for all the Officers who worked all night to make our city peaceful and safe. This is my vision of a peaceful world where each one is loved and respected and it starts with a this single step of spreading what I think.

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be - Lao Tzu

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100 days

100 more days left in 2017!!

Dear ones, have you achieved your new year resolutions or has procrastination gotten the better of you??

This thought came today as I was sipping deliciously aromatic coffee while gazing at the manna falling from the heavens and making plans for my next vacation.

How quickly has 2017 passed…well almost. For a welcome change, this thought didn't disappoint me, rather charged me to make new goals and more plans. Let me in you on a secret, this was not the case until few years back. Like most of us, I used to make lots of resolutions at the start of year and felt sad as the days slowly trickled without much progress on the goals so enthusiastically set. 

Lots has changed since I became a Life Coach. Before helping others get more from their lives, I made these skills an integral part of my own lifestyle. I learnt how to extract much more from the same 24 hours.

The key to do more with less is to set goals and achieve them.

Lack of direction, not lack of time is the problem!!

Right goals give you focus, sense of purpose and direction. Goal setting provides you a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding. 

Never mistake motion for action.

To accomplish your goals, first you need to know how to create them. Simply saying, "I want something" is never enough. Goal setting is a serious process that starts with careful consideration of what you want to achieve, and ends with continuous efforts and actions. For me it's also the habits that supports the goals, like affirmation, meditation and visualization. It took time and consistent effort.

So, before you feel another year gone by, sad or disheartened about not achieving let's answer these three questions:

1. Does it motivate you?

Tip: Make a list of things you want to achieve. Ask yourself, What makes this goal motivating and important? Talking about it brings up which emotion- joy or fear? Visualize it 

2. Is your goal SMART enough?

Tip: Make sure the goals are S - specific, M - measurable, A - attainable, R - relevant and T - time bound. Keeping your goals aligned to this will keep you focused and gives you an opportunity to celebrate success.

3. Have you prepared an Action plan?

Tip: Most often this part is missed while planning goals. Create a list and cross them off one by one. Writing a goal specific action plan is a sure shot way towards success.

Goal setting is much more than simply saying you want something to happen. When you clearly define exactly what you want and understand why you want it at the first place, your chances of failure are considerably reduced. 

Trust your inner wisdom, follow your dreams, believe in yourself, build your goals, take actions and stay committed to the action plan. Have a life full of joy and happiness you truly deserve!!

The Art of Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy is a closeness that goes beyond the ordinary fondness felt for friends and family. It involves a perception of closeness to another, sharing of feelings, understanding emotions and demonstration of caring. The degree of emotional intimacy is an excellent barometer for evaluating the health of a relationship. It’s difficult to have a good relationship with poor emotional intimacy or a poor relationship with a high degree of emotional intimacy. Emotional Intimacy primarily depends on Trust as well as the nature of relationship and the culture around you.

Enhancing your Emotional Intimacy can create a safe cocoon inside and you can experience the blossoming of relationships. It’s easy to be emotionally intimate at the beginning of a meaningful relationship. The other person is just so perfect and interesting!! Emotional intimacy can be more challenging after 10 years have taken their toll. In my case it is 16!!! we just celebrated our marriage anniversary and this time we took time off from parents and kids and booked ourselves to a wonderful place to look back and gather all the pieces of our relationship, how at every stage it was different. It is very easy to get involved in our day to day life and making your kids the centre of your attention, but all this leaves a void in your relationship. When they move out of the nest this void is felt deeply, by both. In my case I learned it the hard way and took lots of efforts to once again live and enjoy. Kids also grow beautifully in an environment where there is more love and intimacy then criticism and blaming. Make emotional intimacy a priority in your relationship.

1. Exercise together. We maintain intimate relationships with those with whom we share challenging times, whether it be surviving a horrible boss or training for a marathon. Spend time training together at the gym. Sweat and suffer together. Your bond will grow.
   
   
2. Let go of your past. Most of the obstacles to being more intimately connected are rooted in the past. Learn from the past and be done with it. Everyone has been hurt at some point. That’s not a valid reason to spoil today. Let it go. Enjoy the NOW!
   
   
3. Share your appreciation for each other. Before turning off the light for the night, share what you each appreciate about each other. List something you appreciated that day. It could be something small like folding your clean pants or stopping by the store for milk.

• You’ll be amazed by what happens. You’ll spend the day looking for things to appreciate about your partner. You’ll eventually think that your partner has changed into an even more amazing person. But the truth is that you’re the one who’s changed.
  
  

4. Touch each other daily. Physical intimacy counts, but focus on other types of touch, too. Give each other a massage or snuggle together on the couch. Hold hands. PDA, made popular by Obama's shows the depth in their relationship.
   
   
5. Be a positive experience for your spouse. Studies have shown that we’re more sensitive to negative experiences than we are to positive. The ratio is roughly 5:1. It takes five positive experiences to negate the impact of one negative experience.

• Try to deliver at least 10 positive experiences for each negative experience so your bond is ever-growing.
  
  

6. Be a better listener. We adore the people in our lives who take the time to listen intently to what we have to say. You might not care about the great deal she got on the pair of heels she’s been eyeing for weeks or the fact that his new carburettor finally arrived in the mail. But you get at least as much as you give when you’re a good listener.

• Look you partner in the eye when they’re speaking to you.
• Turn off the TV.
• Put your cell phone away.
• Avoid interrupting.

7. Explore something new together. Take class or a hike in a new location. Read the same book and share your thoughts. Attend a concert together. Take a trip to someplace new. Be creative and share a new experience together.
   
   
8. Be the best possible version of yourself. By being at your best, you’ll have more to give. Have a few goals and spend time each day striving to achieve them. Take care of yourself physically, spiritually, and emotionally.
   
   
9. Show an interest in your partner’s life. This goes beyond being a good listener. Be inquisitive and ask your partner about her day. If he just got home from playing golf, ask him about his game. Show a genuine interest.

There are many more ways, which will show up as you start opening yourself to this process. Loving yourself more, will help you love everyone around you. Create the peace within, a place to easily forgive. Accepting yourself and others just the way they are will allow them to be expressive. In the essence you have created instant intimacy.